Monthly Archive for July, 2011

An interesting study of human behaviour should include the way in which we meet our six core needs. Students who attend our Advanced Skills training get a great insight into this model of human behaviour. Guru Anthony Robbins refers to it, and in more recent times our own Guru, Joe Pane, has extensively researched and studied these principles which have had a positive influence on his level of coaching mastery.

To give you a window into this intriguing area, we share the following.

How we satisfy our six core needs will determine our experience of happiness in life. Meeting these needs resourcefully requires us to have a balance within ourself. Once we know these needs we can also see why we do what we do and why we don’t do what we know we should do! Now, the intriguing thing is if we saturate ourselves with one need we actually become unhappy. The antidote is that we move resourcefully between one need and the other need that is paradoxical to it. For example, one of our needs is the need for certainty/safety/ comfort. The paradoxical need is one of uncertainty/variety/adventure. So to meet both needs is to move between the two in a way that is resourceful, obtainable and sustainable.

There are four needs of the personality and two needs of the spirit. Two personality needs we’ve mentioned already, and the other two are Significance (a giver of significance is more resourceful thana a getter of significance) and the final personality need is one of Love/Connection. The needs of the spirit are Contribution and Growth.

A coach master will dance with these needs in a way that totally benefits their client, and in our quest for mastery make sure that the study of the six core needs is an essential part of your goals.

We’ve a number of students who have just finished their first face to face training with us, at their Foundations of Coaching Success weekend. And we know from experience that they will walk away from that event full of anticipation, nervous excitment and a head full of ideas on how they can create a life for themselves, a life before that they had only dreamed of.

It is often in these moments that one of three things can occur. Students who are already disciplined will sit down this week, plan out their schedules to ensure they are set up for success. Others will walk away experiencing an overwhelm, as they focus on everything at once, and as a result feel that it’s such a lot to achieve. And the third possibility? Students who experience a bit of both, and seek support by contacting The Coaching Institute Student Support team, and work through how to chunk down their actions and work through what they want to acheive, and then establish a plan of action, to get their results.

Taking some time to prepare a plan of action, being disciplined and remaining focussed can result in incremental steps forward to change and developing their own level of mastery. Let’s face it, success is about discipline, it is about planning and it is about results. So get on board the results train, and enjoy the ride!

“Success is a few disciplines practised every day. While failure is a few errors in judgement repeated every day”. Jim Rohn.

There are many times in our lives when we come to a crossroad…a time when a decision is required. Whether to take one path or another.

And it is in that moment that we best serve ourselves, by taking the time to identify what our inner voice / ego is telling us. Ego tells us we’re better off being safe, take the safe path, the one we know, so that we have certainty on how our life will be. That we will be okay, don’t take risks, because risks can lead to pain. (And ironically, if that is the decision we make, we are still surprised that pain arises anyway…)

And another voice inside us, our true calling, our true passion, our most inner core, our truth, speaks up in those moments as well. Often the louder our truth speaks, the louder our ego becomes. Our truth calls us…ever patiently, ever present, yet buried deep, speaks to us of what is possible, what we have always secretly dreamed and what is awaiting us. There is no promise of certainty, and of safety, yet there is the opportunity to be enriched and empowered beyond anything we knew before. And it’s not just about us, it’s about those that we love and care for, those whose lives we can help make a difference in….people just like us.

When you reach your crossroads, we invite you to think about the decisions you make. Do you always step onto the path of certainty, telling yourself that this is the best way, yet secretly knowing that the end result is also painful because of the regret that is yet to come? Or do you take your time, recognise that your ego is speaking up, patiently quietening this voice, and being okay with the unknown path, secretly knowing that with this uncertainty comes great reward because you know, that as scary as it may be, you are taking the path of your core, of your truth.

Look around you. How many people do you know live their truth? Are you one of them? We all have fears…all of us, every single one of us. It’s what we allow our fears to become or what we uncompromisingly refuse to give into that is the key . You have people around you who have been down the path of uncertainty before….and have conquered it…observe, learn and know that if they can do it, so can you. Build your courage, refuse to live in regret, learn from nature, learn from others……

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

At The Coaching Institute we constantly search for more learning and stretching ourselves, in order to achieve the best we can. We recommend researching Quantum Physics as a way of living in the moment and being open to any possibility based on what your core is. Here are some facts that have arisen out of discussions we’ve had here amongst our team at The Coaching Institute, and we thought it was a great opportunity to share them with you, and we invite you to do your own research and offer your own insights into the power of Quantum Thinking and what results you have achieved from applying this thinking.

Fear is a very slow and dense vibrational state to be in and the more you embody fear the slower your vibrational pattern is, which closes off opportunity. Many people live in the stress and fear and forget about now…Be aware that the more you attach to the future you are helping create it by believing it….so what does that mean?

Well, in terms of setting up your business & paying clients, your mindset is one of absolutely believing and being positive. Often in our experiences coaches go through thoughts of ‘not deserving’ payment for coaching….this is creating a future of no paying clients…that is Quantum Physics in motion! So our message is be careful of what you believe about the future, as the more you attach to a belief system you are helping to create it by believing it.

Reality is built out of thought, and our every thought builds our reality and every thought starts to build reality. So if our focus is on stress and negative thinking then it makes sense that our reality is exactly that! A great description we’ve heard is how our thoughts are kind of like the way a spider builds it’s web, strand by strand, which ultimately builds the web….our web of reality.

In summary, our reality (at the sub atomic level) behaves in accordance with the expectations of the observer.

This is a great reminder that understanding Quantum Physics is a great way of expanding your thinking, and creating realities that are worth building…….we invite you to consider how you can incrementally learn and apply a new way of thinking so the reality you build is one that will create a life of success……………..

Food for thought..here are some inspirations to put up as a reminder…..Remember there is no failure, only feedback.

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” – Sven Goran Eriksson

“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” – John Maxwell

“If you wait to do everything until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything.” – Win Borden

At the end of Sunday July 10th saw a massive room of business owners and coaching community alike walk away with new levels of learning and respect on the mindset and strategies required to truly bring your business to a new level of success, after participating in Breakthrough to Business Success. Minds were opened up in ways never experienced before, as the sensational Sharon Pearson served the room to bring out the best in participants, in a way they have never been exposed to before. The business community came together and grew as a result. Onward and upward from here for our now expanded community from across Australia. At The Coaching Institute we look forward to seeing new business growth and success as a result.

The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.
     - Robert Browning -

You see, in life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
     - Anthony Robbins -

Expectations….we all have them in some form or another, each and every day of our life.  And expectations become a normal everyday unconscious behaviour….we don’t really think about having them, they’re just there, like an old friend, forgotten yet comfortable.

We expect the sun to rise in the morning and to set each evening, we expect to be able to turn on a tap and have water come out of it, we expect that when we study hard we’ll get results, we expect to get better at what we do, we expect that our friends will support us and love us for who we are…[feel free to add to this list].

We wanted to take this opportunity to raise your consciousness to your expectations, to probe and potentially awake something that has been dormant for too long in you….expectations that may inspire you and keep you moving forward – read on and decide whether you expect to do something with this or leave it where it is.

Expect that what you think are always your own thoughts, never anyone elses – always yours. So create thoughts that move you forward, always. Remember what you focus on is what you get – You are your thoughts.

Expect that at some point you will be resistent – resistent to change, to growth, to mastery. Free yourself by letting go. 

You can expect that what you make your life to be, will always be, so choose it to be worthwhile.

Expect that your instincts will step in, so listen to them.

Expect that you can do it, so do it

Expect that you are going to fail sometimes, so when it happens then get back up and learn from it

Expect that you will be told the truth, and when it doesn’t happen ask “what am I choosing to prevent that?”

Expect that you are going to be nervous before your first gig, and your second one…..and prepare for it by being prepared

And finally, expect that you will be happy, be fulfilled, be forgiven, and have faith…and you will…when you first give this freely of yourself and freely share what is in you so that others can expect it too

Wow, what a busy week we had last week at The Coaching Institute and again we’re heading into a new week, ready for new challenges and achievements. We saw the participants in the NLP Trainers Training finish their face to face training with the gorgeous Alice. Participants walk away from that training stretched and challenged like never before. Once again, achievement is about consistent work and mindset…..we wish the participants every success in their final phase of their program.  And we caught up with students who had finished their Foundations of Coaching Success program the weekend prior, assisting them to set out and start their action plan for success……And…..coming up at the end of this week are two great events – the sensational Breakthrough to Business Success in Melbourne and another Foundations of Coaching Success weekend in Sydney where yet another group of new students embark on their personal and professional journey that creates any opportunity their heart may desire.

And, in Melbourne we also welcome another Coach and Connect event being held at The Coaching Institute on Monday evening 4th July. Its all happening and we’re proud to be part of it! Life is never dull or boring here at The Coaching Institute, which is why we love to be part of it!

Have a fabulous week coaches and keep on being persistent and consistent and step by step, work towards your goals, while enjoying the journey along the way!!!