Picture this…you are sitting in the stands at your favourite sports game…the game is close and you are sitting on the edge of your seat. One of the players on ‘your’ team misses an easy goal. You and your mate start yelling in frustration at the player…then turning to each other you agree that you would have got that one, it was so easy, how could he have missed it?!
You sit back in your seat again after feeling a bit more calm and start talking to your mate about how that player ‘always’ misses the easy ones. Why is it so hard for him…he should be dropped from the side he’s so useless, what do the selectors think they’re doing by keeping him in?
I invite you to think about this. Does sitting in the stands and expressing your opinion influence the outcome of the game? Does your point of view make a difference to what’s going on out on the ground where the game is being played? Do you influence the result by sitting on the sidelines? In that moment no doubt you believe that your opinion matters… we all do.
Yet, you and I don’t influence the outcome of the game when we remain in the stands. We have no influence on the result no matter how hard we yell, clap, disagree, agree…the only ones who influence the results are those that are prepared to get out on the field and play the game.
When you become a life coach, your success depends on whether you are prepared to get on the field and play the game. Or whether you continue to sit on the sideline, have an opinion, and believe that this will influence your outcome. And it won’t. It’s only by getting onto the ground, playing the game, and giving it 100% that will give you a result. And maybe that result is sometimes a loss or a draw…and sometimes that result is a win. When you work hard at what you do your chances of winning the premiership are even higher. The result of your game depends on how much you work on your own development, doing the learning, applying the learning, turning up to ‘training’ when it’s raining and cold, when it’s challenging, that makes a difference to your end game, to your result.
Along the way you will meet those that know more and you can learn from, those that are learning just like you who can support you and you can support them. And you can model those ‘players’ that have the results already so your learning is accelerated. By learning, putting in when others don’t, turning up, being prepared to get on the field so that you get that opportunity to influence the outcome. It is only then that you can make a difference to your success and give great value to your clients. And also, while you might hear the opinions of those that choose to remain in the stands, you know that you are the one who can influence the outcome, only you make the difference to your results…not them.
So I ask you…are you in the game already? If not, when is it going to be your time to step down from the stands and get out where you can influence your results?
“You are in charge of your feelings, beliefs, and actions. And you teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot change other people, you can influence them through your own behaviors and actions. By being a living role model of what you want to receive from others, you create more of what you want in your life”. Eric Allenbaugh
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