What’s not said…..

It is interesting how what is unsaid, is the intention of the speaker.

When someone tells you they ‘might’ catch up with you, what are they telling you? Really telling you? What stops them from just saying no or yes? What unconsciously are they avoiding by using this word? How would we respond to invitations received on facebook if we only had the option of yes or no, instead of maybe? How many of us would hesitate to say no, and be tempted to say maybe because it sounds nice, it won’t sound so abrupt or hurtful? Whose map are we operating from?

What happens when someone tells you they’ll ‘try’? Do you catch yourself saying that? If you do, what are you really saying? What is being unsaid? What does ‘try’ mean? You either will or won’t, do or don’t….there is no inbetween.

Picture a scene….4 year olds running around at a kindergarten, playing on the play equipment, digging in the sand pit. How many times do you think you’ll hear the words…”I’ll try….I might”? More likely never! In a simple child’s world there is no try, no might. It is either yes or no. There is no maybe….

When did we decide in a defining moment that it was easier to soften your language? When did you decide that it was no longer important to speak your truth? When did you decide that if you did say no, it was too hurtful for someone else and therefore you would help them remain blissfully unaware that you really want to say no, it just sounds better to select ‘maybe’ and simly not turn up? Or if you say yes, then you have to commit, and you don’t really want to.

We invite you to think about this, to raise your awareness on your own language, what you leave unsaid, and why. And decide whether being truthful to yourself is worth it, or not…..or is it more that you ‘might’ do that?