Monthly Archive for May, 2009

Take the Next Step

By Natalie Ashdown, The Open Door Coaching Group

“All great masters are chiefly distinguished by the power of adding a second, a third, and perhaps a fourth step in a continuous line. Many a man had taken the first step. With every additional step you enhance immensely the value of your first.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

We are often inspired and find the courage within to take a step towards achieving a goal, vision or desire. Something from deep within propels us forward with a speed that exceeds our expectations. But it is when we exceed our expectations that limiting beliefs kick in, to drag us back just a few notches. Call it “tall poppy”, call it “lucky”, whatever it is, this limiting belief says that we didn’t deserve the success that our determination and courage earned for us. It is at this point that we can consider the words of the Master, Emerson.

The courage, determine, excitement, passion and vision that propelled us to this point is within us. It is accessible and alive. It is the second, third and fourth step, that when taken, build the success and belief in ourselves that silence our “limiting voices”. Those limiting voices just need proof. They just want to protect us from failure or hurt, so they serve to hold us back. And aren’t they masters at doing so! A battle is raged in our heads, knowing that we need and want to move forward, yet unable to do so in the same breath. But proof, that comes from little achievements, little challenges and little successes, the second, third and fourth step is just what those voices need to shhh a little and let the voices of drive, success and unlimited happiness move right on in and step up to the plate.

Feel the excitement of the first step you took towards your goal. Feel the emotion and elation of having “just gone and done it” or having the courage to call upon your amazing resources. Take a moment to feel the tingle. And from this point, look at the next step. See the step, hear it, feel it and run it through your head with a speed that means it is completed in seconds. It is small in comparison, you can see it as small in your minds eye and in its smallness it is achievable because you know that you have the resources within. Take a moment, feel the tingle of having completed, in your heart, the second step.

Now the universe urges you to take the next step, to distinguish yourself and immensely enhance the value of your first step. Align with your fears and give the negative voices the positive proof that they seek so that they can turn to voices of strength, support and incredible self-power. You are good enough. You deserve as much. Don’t look back. Go for it.

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What Is Coaching?

What Is Coaching?

By Phil Richards, Life Zone Coaching

A common question for those interested in getting some assistance to “move ahead” in life. I’ll answer it from my perspective – “the process of uncovering what we already have but don’t realise”. Consider the following statement –

“The world is an abundance of opportunity. Our own potential is unlimited. Most waste their time doing things that don’t really matter to them as people. All problems come from dependencies & the need to conform to societies beliefs & values”.

Hmmm. Just how much of this is true ? The answer is “all that you choose to believe is true”. The really tricky bit in life is realising that everything is our choice & freedom is a birth right.

A lot of clients come to a coach not really knowing what it is they really want. The initial superficial answers generally revolve around things & words representing concepts. Coaching is about neither – it is about people. Develop the people & through their development they will naturally claim their freedom to choose & see the world in a far simpler light. Much of what confuses us & blocks us from moving ahead is created – literally.

Be smart – create what you want rather than accept what others say you need

Personally it is saddening to watch people dig themselves into huge holes over ego based issues or the need to conform. Think about it – if we were all to conform would we evolve as a race ? The answer is clearly “No”.

The question then comes down to evolution – how can a coach help you to evolve ? The answer comes back to focussing clearly on the individual. There are four clear steps –

Know yourself
Be Yourself
Step Up
Live Life
You face the person in control of your life every time you look in the mirror. Are you happy with what you see in the mirror ? For those of you that felt a little twinge around the solar plexus area, the answer is probably “No”. Furthermore you also know what needs to change – the thought or feeling comes from the same area.

Start working on those things NOW

The second & third steps can be a challenge. Without them though you will not achieve your potential. These two could be compared to your first skydive – sitting on the edge of the aircraft door at 12000ft – looking at the incredibly “fluffy” clouds below, the wind buffeting your face, your heart pumping – then you jump!!! You reach maybe 180km in the first 5000ft, then the chute opens & you gently waft to the ground. All of a sudden it all seemed so easy & you did something you thought you couldn’t. Those brave enough to “jump” here will gain the rewards. Ironically the very people “holding” you back by their opinions really desire the freedom you choose to display.

Step four is the reward for being brave enough to explore the first three steps.

Step four will not happen without steps 1,2 & 3 first

The result of the fourth step is why we are here. It comes back to you being responsible for your own life & quality of the same. Choose your coach wisely – ideally find one that “walks their talk”. Rejoice in the fruits of your combined endeavour.

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