So you you’re interested in becoming a coach? Click on the video to find out about the 3 major qualities and attributes you’ll need to be successful in this exciting profession!
Hope you find it useful.
Shaz
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Monthly Archive for April, 2010
Because so many of you have been emailing me to find how I started out as a coach I thought I’d share some insight through this blog. About 8 years ago, I was at a real crossroads in my life, I felt frustrated and felt there was no where for me to go. Roll forward 9 years I now run the most successful Coaching School in Australia, pretty cool. But let me tell you, if I can do it so can you. Click on the video to find out how I started out.
Answering your questions will be a regular feature in this blog so email me your questions at action@thecoachinginstitute.com and I’ll be sure to answer them in the up coming weeks!
Speak soon,
Shaz
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Ask anyone who trains car drivers on safety courses what happens if you tell a new driver to avoid the witch’s hat and they will say the same thing. The driver hits the witch’s hat.
The drivers move towards what they are looking at.
It can take five or more times for the driver to move their focus from what they don’t want to hit to where they want to drive.
These drivers are a great metaphor for what can happen in our lives. We can be going for a goal and then notice an obstacle or a challenge. Instead of remaining focused on the goal, we shift our focus to the obstacle. In life, like with the driving course, what you focus on is what you move towards.
Imagine you’re going for a goal, say to weigh your ideal weight. You’re doing the right things, making some progress, then you seem to plateau and no matter what you do, nothing seems to be shifting. The going gets tougher than it had been where you started, some of the fun of the new exercise regime is starting to fade and frankly it’s getting tough to say no to the dinner invitations.
You tell yourself you’ve done pretty well, or that its okay to carry some extra weight at your age or with your work load or with kids to look after.
You give up the dream because you rationalise your lack of success. You made it okay to settle again for the poor results you were getting.
We do this all the time. Think about a time you wanted a pay rise, a date with someone or a bigger savings account. We don’t get what we want in the time frame we’ve made up for ourselves and we’re often not even aware of it, we rationalise our lack of results.
And so it goes. We rationalise ourselves into mediocrity, until the next cycle of pain hits and we have to act. We take a few steps, get results, notice a plateau and the going gets a little tough… and the rationalisation starts again.
The problem with this strategy is each time we do it we shave a little more off our self-esteem. We trade in our self-belief for settling. We drop our standards because we don’t want to be disappointed the next time. This is what most people do in life…..BUT now that you are armed with the problems of this specific strategy and can recognise it…… you can implement plan B.
Plan B is simple. When you hit the plateau, you raise you standards. You ask more of yourself than you normally would and ask more of yourself than people around would. You don’t settle, you step up!
It sounds so ridiculously simple that you’re probably questioning if it is worth the investment or effort. Let me tell you it is!
Most people experience a sit back and give up. People who live their ultimate vision for life don’t give up. They keep going… even harder. They focus on where they are going and not on what is holding them back!
Google+Designing Your Ideal Life- The Power of Questions
By Shazz P
To create an extraordinary life you must be able to paint a picture of what it looks like. Few people take the time to do this, preferring to stay in “reality” of their current situation. Building a picture of your life and ask yourself:
How you would like it to be?
What you would be doing?
What you would feel?
Who you would be (your attributes)?
What would you own?
How would you contribute?
How would you spend your leisure time?
This is one of the most valuable things you can do. Put aside the “doubter” in you…. the voice that tells us we can’t… and to just go for it as if your pen can’t stop. Write everything you would want to experience, and don’t stop for at least five minutes.
What is your primary focus? What do you consistently ask yourself in different situations? We are constantly processing, filtering and sorting out evidence that our world matches how we think it should like. We do this through 65,000 thoughts each day. Most of these thoughts are in the form of questions. Is this right for me? How do I do this? What if can’t? What will they think? Why? Why me?
Questions constantly shape our choices. We can’t stop the questions, but what we can do is choose what the questions are. What questions do you ask yourself most often that drives most of your behaviour and motivation?
If you ask yourself low quality questions, you will no doubt experience a corresponding quality of life. Imagine you make a mistake, and instead of asking “why me?” you ask yourself: “how can I turn this around?” or “what can I learn from this”.
Better questions? Absolutely!!! I’ve been training my mind to ask these questions and I experience less stress, overwhelm and anxiety as a result!!!
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I’ve come to learn that what may seem of little consequence to one person can literally turn someone else’s life inside out. I experienced the power of this when I was coaching a client recently. They share with me how a teacher had made fun of one of the students when they had been in school. This event had happened over 30 years ago, but my client remembered that event as being hugely significant in their life. Because of the teacher’s seemingly thoughtlessness, my client had become a teacher….. they wanted to show the world that teachers can be kind.
One event, an entire future shaped!
We all have significant events in our past that have shaped who we have become and the choices we make. If it is important to you, then its important! These are our defining moments. They can be positive, and influence our choices in ways that empower us. They can inspire us and show us what we are truly capable of. Some events are of course going to be clearly negative. However, the meaning we give to these events is entirely up to us.
Memory gives us the ability to recall these events, but our ability to recall the events accurately is difficult. What we always keep, however is our feelings associated with the event. Recall a moment of exquisite joy in your life, and notice how the feeling is close by. Recall an event that caused you great sorrow and the pain is there.
Defining moments anchor our reactions to the world today. These significant events determine the feelings we have to the inevitable stresses and strains of our lives. This makes them essential to uncover and explore. Until we do this, we are separate from who we truly are. How can we understand what motivates our choices unless we understand what created these choices in the first place?
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