Archive for the 'Personal Development' Category

Six Reasons We Do What We Do – The Owner’s Manual of Your Mind

Published on November 7, 2011 in Inspirational, Life Coaching and Personal Development. 19 Comments

I became a coach because I wanted to understand what made people tick – and I guess, what made me tick, if I was really honest.

I was going through a period of making some pretty poor decisions, felt down, frustrated, confused…

Nothing good.

I felt like I never got given the Owner’s manual of the Mind and I REALLY wanted one!

So I became a coach to get the Owner’s Manual.

One of the first things I learned was about what motivated me. It’s called the Six Core Needs, and learning about this changed everything for me in a heartbeat.

We have six core needs which we must meet. We will ONLY do behaviours that meet these needs. More precisely, we only do behaviours which meet the first four needs and the last two needs are the bonus points that explain why so many people are miserable – it explains why I was miserable for years.

 

The six core needs are:

Certainty – we want to feel safe, in control, certain of ourselves or of our environment. The more certainty we seek the less risks we take, so the less growth we experience, so the more miserable and uncertain and fearful we become. The more certainty we experience within, and the less certainty we need in our environment, the more growth we’ll be willing to experience, the more we’ll seek to learn and discover, so the greater our sense of self worth.

We all need certainty in our lives – how we get that certainty – through controlling others or through believing in ourselves – determines the quality of our lives. The more we think our environment has to change for us to feel certain, the less quality of life we have. The more we take responsibility for our own sense of certainty, the greater our feelings of self worth and thus how we feel about our lives.

Our ability to handle uncertainty around us is directly equal to how much success we experience in our careers. The more uncertainty we can deal with, and still move forwards, the better leader we become.

 

Variety – The flip side of this is our need for variety or adventure. So whilst we need some level of certainty to function, we also need some level of variety to spice things up. If things are too predictable for too long we get bored, so we’ll spice things up to feel variety.

How we do this tells us a lot about the quality of our lives. If things are cruising along, for example, in a relationship, and we’re ‘settled’, do we stir things up by picking a fight? Or do we stir things up by doing something spontaneous and romantic? Both create variety, but the first response is going to create a lower quality of life and the second choice can improve our quality of life.

One response is functional and resourceful. One response is unresourceful.

Some people don’t want too much variety, and if they get it they retreat and close down and become ineffective. Some people respond to too much variety by becoming a ‘control freak’ to get things back under control. Some people run away.

Some people relish the uncertainty and become even more resourceful.

The more variety (uncertainty) and unpredictability you can enjoy, the more success you’ll have.

Some people don’t want a lot of uncertainty, and are content with cruising along in a middle level role, repeating many tasks over and over, for years. These people need less variety and are perfect for that role. Some people would go nuts in a role like that and need more adventure and variety.

 

Significance – This one is interesting. The need for significance can be met through our egos, which is tiresome and grating on others. The need for significance can be met through service to others and giving. It can be met through doing something that your proud of, through blaming someone, through yelling… There are lots of ways to meet this need, some harmful and some helpful.

If you blame others for your mess, you’re meeting your need for significance.

If you take responsibility for the mess, you’re meeting your need for significance.

Both accomplish meeting the need, it’s just one way is unresourceful and one way is resourceful.

One way will mess you up more. One way will propel you forward.

Either way, the need is being met.

You can meet your need for significance through being a leader, inventing stuff, solving problems, serving others, facing challenges…

And you can meet it through blaming others, saying it ‘can’t be done’, yelling at someone and sulking.

 

Connection/love – We all need to feel connected in some way. We may get this need met through a relationship, through meditation, exercise, hiking, praying, writing, talking…

And we could get it through smoking, drinking, arguing…

We WILL get this need met, and as with the other needs, it will either be in a way that is resourceful or unresourceful.

 

Growth – These final two needs are optional, unfortunately. And here’s the thing – these last two needs determine your level of happiness.

If we grow, we feel good about ourselves, our self worth goes up, our confidence builds, we feel more certainty, we’re experiencing more variety, we’re feeling good (significant)…

If we’re not growing, we feel we’re shrinking, and we could feel we’re ‘in a rut’. We all need to grow in some way. If someone isn’t feeling that great about themselves, it could be because they’ve been avoiding doing the things that could lead to them learning and growing…

 

Contribution – This final need is another pathway to happiness. (I guess this is why I love coaching). We get to give to others beyond ourselves, which seems to cause our own problems to fade! Contribution combined with growing personally and professionally are sure fire ways to feel great about YOU.

And this is where it gets REALLY interesting – if ANY behaviour meets your three of your needs, you become addicted to that behaviour. You will KEEP doing it, even if it hurts you, because it’s meeting your needs.

If you complain about other people (significance), avoid taking responsibility (certainty), get overly emotional about problems (connection) – you’re going to meet three needs. You WILL become addicted to that pattern of behaviour unless you become aware of how it’s meeting your needs and then find an alternative behaviour that will meet those three needs in a more resourceful and functional way.

We get addicted to behaviour because it meets needs. We give up behaviours if it no longer meets our needs.

If someone loves gossip (variety, connection, significance) and the person you care about doesn’t, you won’t do it, because they won’t meet your needs for variety, significance and connection with their discouraging response.

If you love leading others (certainty of self, variety, significance, connection) and taking responsibility for results (certainty of self, variety, significance) you’ll keep leading.

If you love your family (all needs) you’ll keep giving to your family.

 

And here’s where it gets interesting – our responsibility is to meet our needs in as sustainable and resourceful way as possible. For example, if someone loves complaining (certainty, variety, significance, connection) (no growth or contribution) – can they do this? Yes. Is it sustainable? As in, if they KEPT doing it would things improve? NO. Is it resourceful? NO. So stop doing it.

Simple, huh?

When you coach your clients, use the model of this we give you in your manual to help your client come to realise how their desire to meet their needs must be met, but how they meet those needs is going to create the quality of their lives.

Trust you enjoyed this, and I look forward to your feedback!

Sharon

Share

What Successful People Know…

Published on August 1, 2011 in Inspirational, Life Coaching and Personal Development. 48 Comments

I’ve recently been reflecting on how things have changed for me in the past nine years. I used to be afraid of my own shadow, terrified of failure and even more afraid of success. I focused on my weaknesses and drove my self esteem down as a consequence.

And I meet people who are doing the same thing I used to do, and don’t know how to get out of it. As much as they want things to change, they seem to feel powerless to do anything differently.

I think much of it is because they don’t know how to change the habits they’ve taken years to practice.

So I’ve written this article as – hopefully – a guide to what to do. Let me know what you think!

Success Key #1: Turning up is 50% of success

There is nothing to be gained from holding back and ‘waiting for the right time’, the ‘right mood’, or for when you’re not ‘so busy’. That moment will never come, because each of these excuses have been carefully crafted to protect you from actually doing anything.

Successful people have had to overcome this natural desire to put things off. They’ve had to stop allowing that part of their brain that wants to keep them safe to rule their life.

They’ve had to develop the emotional muscle to recognise when something really needs to wait, or if it’s just the ‘Procastinator’ in them willing them to make another excuse.

Turning up is 50% of the battle towards success in any field. Nothing happens unless you show up. Thinking about it doesn’t count. Wondering what it will be like when you do show up definitely doesn’t count. Waiting for the ‘right moment’ doesn’t even come close to counting.

You either show up, or you don’t.

If you make it this cut and dried for yourself, you’ll know when you’re really on your way to success.

People who show up are admired by others and are a source of inspiration to the people around them.

Success Key #2: Consistent progress is more important than one off attempts

Whilst turning up is a good, solid start, what you do next is just as important. There’s no point in taking the first step – showing up – if you don’t follow that up with some consistent, ongoing action.

Again, this can take some initial overhauling of how your mind wants you to behave. If success has eluded you then it’s learned how to control you and this is what it does – builds dozens of ways to help you stay home and do nothing. It will keep you busy, distracted, stuck in drama, emotionally stressed and/or confused as long as it can to help you not take action.

So, like I said, that first step is a great one – but the second and third are just as important.

Successful people have an organised approach to what they’re great at. They have a diary which prioritises their passion. They schedule time for what’s important to them, even if it’s a little scary to them in the beginning. They know the importance of consistently coming back to the thing they want to succeed at.

Because they know that if they don’t, their old habits of busy-ness, distractions and excuses will kick back in.

Successful people are on a mission to change things for the better, and they do something every day towards fulfilling that dream.

People who take constant action are seen as the leaders of their community. They are admired and sought out for their persistence. They are trusted because they have demonstrated their ability to commit to completion.

Success Key #3: Be a learning machine

Your thoughts, it’s said, create your reality. If you want a different outcome, then it follows you need to change your thinking.

If your thinking is clouded with uncertainty, confusion, overwhelm or stress, then you don’t have a strategy for becoming successful. You have a strategy for feeling uncertainty, confusion, overwhelm or stress.

Successful people have conditioned their thoughts to support their endeavours, not sabotage them with self doubt.

They undo and overcome years of negative ‘stuff’ by educating themselves on how to communicate with themselves in a positive, supportive and ‘can do’ manner.

They don’t bog themselves down with negative self talk. They don’t discourage themselves. They build the language of ‘let’s do it’ into their minds so that when faced with a challenge they move towards it.

They don’t see a challenge as evidence of ‘it’s not worth it’, or ‘maybe it’s not meant to be.’

They see a challenge as an inevitable part of the desire to achieve something and educate themselves on how to overcome the challenge.

Get educated on how to have a healthy approach to challenges, and get educated on the thing you want to succeed at. You will amaze yourself with your results!

Success Key #4: Hang out with other people who play the way you play

On your way to success, whatever you do, don’t hang out with people who will try to drag you down, remind you of how ‘hard’ it is or otherwise try to steal your dreams. There is no room for ‘Dream Stealers’ on your way to success.

Surround yourself with people who are on their way, too. Surround yourself with people who support your quest. Surround yourself with unreasonable friends – friends who will expect more of you and insist you have a go, rather than give up.

It’s too easy to critique someone’s efforts. Australians seem to be pretty good at it. But there is no room for Armchair Critics on the path to success.

Successful people get with people who are already playing the game they want to play. They get in front of examples of success and inspiration and they observe, learn and then do what they have seen works.

People who are clearly ‘on their way’ and involved, contributing and adding value to their community are sought after for their commitment and their generosity.

Success Key #5: Build on your strengths

Mediocre results come from doing what mediocre minds do – and that’s focusing on shortcomings, weaknesses and faults. Think about it. It’s a perfect strategy to justify never actually doing anything. Just convince yourself you have enough problems to deal with right now, what with your lack of confidence, your inability to take action and your previous setbacks – and voila! Instant justification to not improve, not attempt something new and exciting and to not have a go.

This is what mediocre people do EVERY DAY. How completely, utterly exhausting.

No one becomes successful focusing only on their shortcomings. Put another way, no one succeeds in having a beautiful garden if they only look for and pull out the weeds. You’ve got to plant something fabulous, tend to it, nurture it and watch it grow.

You’ve got to focus on your dream, and you’ve got to focus on your strengths.

Successful people are so busy getting on with what they CAN do, they’re not even noticing where they don’t have an A game.

People who focus on their strengths build their certainty in themselves and therefore find it eas to help others feel certain in themselves too.

Success Key #6: Don’t react with fear, respond with a thought out plan to deal with challenges

If you want to be successful, then when you hit a challenge, pause, pause some more, welcome the challenge and then respond to it.

Challenges are NOT evidence of how this ‘was not meant to be’, or that ‘maybe I wasn’t cut out to…’

Challenges are an inevitable part of pursuing something that matters to us. We can’t have progress without challenges. There is no growth when we know all the steps, can handle all the obstacles and find it all easy. That’s not growth. That’s boredom.

By setting our sights on something to achieve, we immediately invite along the challenges that come to achieve it. So we may as well know how to handle them well!

Successful people not only handle challenges and uncertainty – they welcome it.

In fact, the more uncertainty someone can handle and enjoy, the more success they will have. If you are constantly seeking to feel safe, comfortable and not stretched, you’re not progressing, therefore you can’t expect to succeed.

People who handle large amounts of uncertainty tend to be attractive to others, are trusted and are relied upon during ‘tough’ times. They are admired because they seem so capable.

Success Key #7: Appreciate what you have

You’ve seen it – someone complaining about how ‘tough it is’ and you just KNOW that they make it tougher because of their lack of appreciation for what they DO have.

Who do you want to be with? The person who complains about their bad luck or the person who is focused on where they’re going, what the DO have to get them there and who is appreciating every bit of help along the way?

Easy question to answer.

Which are you?

Successful people are fulfilled. I don’t think success without fulfilment is success – I think it’s failure. And fulfilment comes from a genuine appreciation for what you have.

Your life is enriched with meaning when you are grateful for what is.

Success – ultimate success – is a life of meaning, fulfillment and love.

The path to achieve this is in the other six steps! J

I trust you enjoyed this article. I’d love your comments and insights – you can post them directly below and I look forward to reading them!

Sharon Pearson

Share

How To Succeed In Coaching With Absolutely NO Experience

Published on June 20, 2011 in Inspirational, Life Coaching and Personal Development. 108 Comments

Firstly, let me start by saying you’re not alone. 98% of our new students have absolutely NO experience in coaching when they start with us, and no experience with attracting clients either.

That was me, 9 years ago, too.

This is what I’ve discovered… (it would be great if you could add your comments on this at the bottom of this blog, I’d love to hear your feedback)

1. ALWAYS be willing to learn something new about yourself and what makes you tick – Awareness is 95% of the journey.

I felt defensive when I first got feedback about my coaching, and then I realised, if I’m to improve, I need to be open to finding out how to be as effective as I can be. It helped that my mentors listened and gave me thorough feedback.

This is where new, inexperienced coaches seem to need the most assistance -

How to recognise patterns of behaviour in yourself that don’t work so you can do something about it

How to develop new, more effective patterns of behaviour that get great results

How to relax and ‘be present’ to the client, rather than worrying about yourself

How to overcome nerves in those first few practice sessions

2. TRUST the system, even if you don’t believe in yourself

I see too many coaches waiting for ‘self-confidence’ before they have a go. I say the same thing that was said to me when I started out… ‘Don’t wait for confidence in yourself to arrive – until it does have confidence in the system.’

There are many coaches who are successful today who started out with zero confidence, including me. But I did have a system to follow, and support as I used the system, so I chose to believe in that, rather than wait until I believed in myself… BIG relief!

Here’s the weird thing – confidence turns up BECAUSE we take action, not because we NEED to take action. It’s through doing something that we get the very thing we want the most – self-belief. Weird, I know!

So here’s what to do – use the systems and checklists you were given when you first joined, and then adapt them as your confidence grows to suit you and your style of coaching – then you have the best of both worlds – a proven system that suits who you are.

3. RELY on support – you don’t have to do it all yourself

There’s this weird thing about ‘doing it for ourselves’ that can really mess us up… don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s GREAT to be out there doing it our own way – but when it comes to something new, like your coaching, I highly recommend you turn to the support team that we have provided for you.

You have two mentors, an accountability buddy, a study group, your local Coach and Connect group that meets every month, classes every fortnight where you can ask any question you want, the bonus classes on how to use the system you have… or you can simply email us here and we can help.

The thing about doing it all for ourselves is way over rated, I think. I know it’s hard, because we’re pretty capable people!, but how about letting us lend a hand? I think getting assistance from experts makes a lot more sense than trying to figure it out for yourself.

4. MODEL excellence

As you already know, NLP is the most advanced form of coaching there is, and it’s valued so much for a reason – it gets excellent results.

Modelling is simple – you find someone who has already achieved the results you want, and you study what they do. Then you do the same thing.

And it’s easy to do, because we provide you the models as part of your program.

Just watch them, ask them questions, read their contributions in your manuals, and then do what they do. You will be AMAZED how easy it is to replicate their results.

Remember, if one person can do it using a system, then so can you. All you need to do is follow the same system, and their results are yours.

5. DARE TO DREAM

Sometimes, it just is as simple as… dare to dream.

Sometimes, even though it looks challenging, we need to realise that the challenge is exactly what we need right now, if we’re to grow.

We can’t be comfortable all the time. That leads to becoming stuck in a rut (something I have EXTENSIVE past experience with!) and then self confidence falls, and it’s all yuuuukkkkkk. (technical word!)

So we have to dare to dream that we can make it happen, because we deserve the best, we deserve to succeed and because we deserve to achieve our goals.

I have the following quote at the front of my journal…

‘The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do.’
(Sarah Ban Breathnach, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, 1996)

Trust this helps you out, you can let me know by leaving your feedback, insights or comment below

Share

All your questions answered about NLP

Published on March 8, 2011 in Life Coaching, NLP and Personal Development. 1 Comment

Listen in as Master Trainer in NLP Alice Haemmerle answers all of your NLP related questions and explains how NLP can impact your life, your career and your family!

Share

What do you believe?

Published on September 14, 2010 in Personal Development. 0 Comments Tags: , , .

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born
A Death Certificate shows that we died
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat . Relax . . .
And read this slowly.

I Believe…
That just because two people argue,
It doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.
And just because they don’t argue,
It doesn’t mean they do love each other.

I Believe….
That we don’t have to change friends if
We understand that friends change.

I Believe….
That no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe…
That true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe…
That you can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.

I Believe…..
That it doesnt have to take me a long time
To become the person I want to be.

I Believe…
That you should always leave loved ones with
Loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe….
That you can keep going long after you think you can’t.

I Believe….
That we are responsible for what
We do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe…
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe…
That heroes are the people who do what has to be
done when it needs
to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe….
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe….
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing
and have the best time.

I Believe….
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you
when you’re down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe…
That sometimes when I’m angry
I have the right to be angry,
But that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe….
That maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you’ve had
And what you’ve learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I Believe….
That it isn’t always enough,
to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe…
That no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I Believe….
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
But, we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe…
That you shouldn’t be so eager to find
Out a secret. It could change your life Forever.

I Believe….
Two people can look at the exact same
Thing and see something totally different.

I Believe….
That your life can be changed in a matter of
seconds by people who don’t even know you.

I Believe…
That even when you think you have no more to give,
When a friend cries out to you -
you will find the strength to help.

I Believe…
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe…
That the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.

I Believe…
That you should send this to
all of the people that you believe in, I just did.

‘The happiest of people don’t necessarily
have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything they have.

Share

Procrastination – The Great Time Stealer

Published on August 6, 2010 in Life Coaching, Personal Development and Procrastination. 1 Comment

One of the things I get told as a coach more than anything else is “I don’t have time”. I’ve  spent a lot of time on the concept of time, and time after time I find it’s the procrastination about a task that steals more time than the activity itself.. So for today I want to spend a little of that valuable commodity on one of the great time stealers we know …Procrastination…

It’s a weird concept when you really think about it – I mean Procrastination by definition is putting off something you are going to do anyway and yet instead of rolling up your sleeves and getting on with the business, you punish yourself for a while first and then get the job done after you feel suitably punished or you suddenly have a big enough WHY…

And really it’s the WHY that will help you with Procrastination – students will put off an assignment for weeks, but the night before it’s due work through the night sipping coke and downing NoDoz wondering all along why they waited so long, because once they got started the task was easy.. The important words in that sentence are highlighted by the way – because procrastination meekly surrenders when we fight it with starting something!

Some simple tips for overcoming the “P” word..

  1. Be aware of when you are Procrastinating and ask yourself why.. The task is never really that hard, so what internal dialogue is going on that’s painting a negative picture in your mind? What are you really afraid of? Is it failure? Disapproval? Perhaps it’s of being a super success?
  2. Work out what your strategy for procrastination is and “scratch the record” a little by not allowing yourself to run the old patterns. If you procrastinate by answering the phone then don’t. If you procrastinate by looking at your email instead then turn your email off and keep the pattern distracter at bay. Working out your strategy for procrastinating will take you a long way toward defeating it.
  3. Make a list of the things you like to do and the things you seem to put off and do the ones you put off first thing in the morning when you’re at your best.. The later part of your day is much better suited to tasks that require little energy from you.
  4. Realise what your big “WHY” is.. – It may feel boring to write an email reply to someone in a timely fashion – but why are you really writing the email? Is it so you can make a sale or fill a seminar room that will allow you that overseas holiday or more time with your family? Sure makes the email an easy task right? A big enough why will make any task a breeze.
  5. Remember that you can only eat an elephant one bite at a time…If you have a big task just break it down into small chunks and get started working systematically through the chunks remembering your big WHY..
  6. At the end of each day write your tasks for the next day down and work through only those tasks. If a new task appears put it on the list for the next day or whenever is appropriate – avoid the “shiny thing” syndrome..
Share

So many choices is NOT a good thing! And what jam taught me…

Published on June 25, 2010 in Life Coaching, Personal Development and Procrastination. 1 Comment

I was with a friend recently who was looking at perfumes. For one hour. And bought exactly…nothing.

I asked her why and she couldn’t answer but I think she, like many others, is stuck in “over-choice” mode.  We are so inundated with choices these days. For everything. It’s not one colour it’s ten shades of black. It’s not one ice-cream, there’s hundreds of flavors. There’s not one type of sauce, there’s, literally, hundreds.

Is all this choice a good thing?

Some researchers took this question to a supermarket and offered jams. They offered six jams one day and over twenty-four types another day.  The crowds were there for the twenty-four choices, but the sales were there for the six choices.  It seems with too many choices people can’t decide.  Decision paralysis sets in. Nothing happens. Nothing changes.

People don’t have jam.

Okay, that last part was for the cheap laugh.  But where else do we freeze and not make a decision because of over-choice?  Life partner? How many choices do we have to sample before we choose?

Work?  How many jobs do we do before we before we commit to a career?

Shopping around has become the euphemism for “I have too many choices, I’m worried about getting it wrong so I’ll wait… I don’t know what for, but I’ll wait anyway, and maybe inspiration will hit me”.

Yup, that’ll work.

The solution? And it works, so only do this if you want to get more decisive and have less procrastination… Is to know your criteria for choosing BEFORE you start looking. It’s the only way to avoid throwing your arms up in horror at the complete overwhelm that can occur.  The pain of indecisiveness seems to occur to people who go into the decision with no set criteria for what they want or need. Someone wants a new career. They know they want ‘different’ and ‘more variety’. That’s not criteria, that’s emotion. And yes, we do make decisions on how we want to feel, but to get the feeling we want, it’s going to take a couple of steps.

What gives you the feeling of ‘different’ and ‘more variety’?. What actual activities cause those feelings for you?

Get clear on that and you empower yourself, rather than leaving the responsibility for your variety to the employer who certainly has no idea of how to fulfill that need for you.

The second the thing to do is to give yourself a time limit. I know someone who took five years to choose a coaching program. Five years. How much criteria and new data do they need? In that time wars have been fought, Presidents have been elected. Oceans have been sailed. Mountains climbed. Inventions made. Lives changed.

Sigh.

I think the less we know about the specifics of what we want, the less decisions we’re capable of making. So then we get less confident about ourselves. Self-doubt sets in inertia becomes our natural, painful state.  And it starts taking years to make a decision that should have taken two weeks.

And I’ll go further and say the less decisions we make, the less empowered we feel.

Confident people who believe in themselves seem to know how to make great decisions. And great decision makers seem to have confidence and self esteem.  The whole thing starts with us, and our willingness to think about what we actually want.

But then, it always did.

Go on, I dare you… Stop looking endlessly at all the options and choose.

The holiday destination.

The dinner reservation.

The crockery set.

Whatever’s next on the task list.

Whatever’s going to give you a buzz.

Something that’s going to teach you something useful, rock your world, shake up your status quo.

Double dare.

Share

The Answer to Life, the Universe and Everything and what John Assaraf has to say about it…

Published on May 7, 2010 in Business Development and Personal Development. 3 Comments

By Sharon Pearson

I recently read a book called “The Answer” by John Assaraf and Murray Smith. Outstanding book. Interesting ideas.

John has the runs on the board so he’s worth listening to (note, when finding new mentors, make sure they have succeeded in the area you are going to be mentored) as he has used the exact principles in his book to create several multimillion (and billion) dollar businesses that make a difference in peoples’ lives. That’s more than most people achieve in a lifetime!

The authors build the idea of the book on the notion that ‘everything is energy’. A rock. Water. Anything you can touch. ‘It’s all made of molecules, which are made of atoms, which are made of protons and electrons and neutrons, which are made of nothing but vibrating packets of energy’.

There is no distinction between matter and energy. So the boundaries between the physical world and the world of our thoughts also disappear.

Physicists have discovered a thing called Nonlocality (Einstein called it spooky action at a distance) They took some white blood cells from the mouths of subjects and cultured them. Then they moved the cultures to distant locations (more than seven miles away).

They showed his subject a TV show of the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbour in 1941. The subject was a former navy gunner who was actually there, and when he saw a photo of a gunner, his emotions were there for everyone to see – and this is where it gets interesting…

At the exact same moment, the culture that was seven miles away also reacted. The same way.

The same results of the test were replicated over hundreds of miles.

Physicists call this entanglement – the cells are entangled with one another – and no matter how apart they are, they continue to influence one another. And it happens faster than the speed of light.

So how is this possible?

Each subatomic particle appears to exist not as a solid, stable ‘thing’, but as the potential of any one of its various possible selves.

So at its most basic level, physical matter isn’t exactly anything yet. It’s simply infinite fields of possibility.

And get this: the act of observation influences the behaviour of the particles.

This means that subjectivity – the action of consciousness upon a piece of matter – becomes the essential element in the nature of reality.

Consciousness, then, is what the universe is made of. Matter and energy are simply just two of the forms that consciousness takes.

So is this what physicists are saying???

That EVERYTHING is made of thought???

Yup.

“Everything in the physical world is made out of atoms.

Atoms are made out of energy.

And energy is made out of consciousness.”

Your thoughts not only matter, they create matter.

You’ve heard the expression “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

But that’s not how the universe works. The truth is more like this: “You’ll see it when you believe it.”

Your beliefs don’t just reflect your reality, they create your reality.

“Thought is the most powerful force in the universe. Our thoughts are the controlling factor in what we manifest and create in our lives.

The idea precedes the thing.”

My whole business has been built on these principles. Whether I believe in these laws or not, they seem to be working. I’m getting exactly the results I am expecting. Nothing more. Nothing less.

How about you?

Share

What To Look For in A Coaching School

Published on May 3, 2010 in Personal Development. 0 Comments

So you interested in become a coach…Get tips from Sharon Pearson, CEO of The Coaching Institute on what you need to look for in a Coaching School!

Share

Qualities and Attributes of A Successful Coach

Published on April 28, 2010 in Business Coaching, Life Coaching and Personal Development. 0 Comments Tags: , .

So you you’re interested in becoming a coach? Click on the video to find out about the 3 major qualities and attributes you’ll need to be successful in this exciting profession!

Hope you find it useful.

Shaz

Share