I became a life coach because I didn’t feel successful and I didn’t know how to change that. I felt trapped by my circumstance and by my past. I was obsessed with how hard life seemed to be, and anxious because I never thought it would get better.
I didn’t become a coach to help masses of people, or to make money or to find my purpose. I just wanted to find a way for it not to hurt so much and for me to like me.
I wonder if sometimes I disappoint people with this story. It’s definitely not filled with visions of finding my true purpose in life!
In the beginning I worked on me. I focused on challenging my beliefs and my attitude about life. I figured that if I kept ‘blaming’ life for my circumstance, nothing could ever change. So perhaps I would try taking responsibility for my life, instead.
After 37 years of blaming others and hoping it would get better, this was not easy.
I coached for free for some time, as I slowly overcame my limiting beliefs about what I could contribute to create a better life. It was sloooowww going. I was frustrated part of the time and annoyed with myself for most of the time.
It took several months before I finally began to see a true change. It didn’t happen because of any one thing. There is no ‘secret’. It took me focusing on what I could change and influence. It took me taking responsibility for my beliefs and attitudes about what I could do to create my life. And it took me stopping blaming others, my past or my circumstance for everything that went wrong.
I kept coaching for free for months. I needed to learn how to provide value, and to not worry about me when I was meant to be helping them. A big dose of getting over myself was needed, and that took time.
My first paying client is still in my life. She’s in a training with us right now. Nine years later, I can see how far I’ve come. I can also see how far I still want to travel. The difference is, I am now traveling with someone I like (me) and enjoying what comes along.
Becoming a life coach didn’t ‘fix me’, but it did give me the tools to apply to show me how to create the life I want.Google+