I just want to be happy and I am not. The problem is that I don’t even know what would make me happy anymore. What should I do?? - Robert, Mt. Isa

Listen to your heart and dare to dream. Think of a child who rattles off endless possibilities when you ask them who they want to be when they grow up. They are unafraid and full of energy and enthusiasm about what great experiences lay ahead. As we move through life we start to establish boundaries around what is possible for us. We gather evidence for our beliefs around what we can and cannot do. Write a list of 100 things you would still like to experience in your lifetime and get committed to yourself and start believing that you can.

Do you find yourself waiting to feel a certain way, not quite knowing how long you will be waiting for? Maybe you aspire to have lots of things or do you do lots of things hoping that it will lead to happiness?

Be- Do- Have. You are a human being not a human doing. Creating happiness in your life is something that you can generate for yourself by embracing it as a way of being. BE at the source of your life by choosing who you would like to be and experiencing happiness in your language and your actions. If you are being happy, what would you DO? If you are being happy how would you hold yourself? What language would you use? If you are doing those things what results would you HAVE.

I used to think that I was predisposed to being stressed and highly strung and wish that I were more laid back. Then I realised that I could reinvent myself as a laid back person by making different choices. I knew that it would be unfamiliar at first and would take something to catch myself before I reacted in the same way that I would have done in the past, however I was up for the challenge! I started to choose to be laid back. I would do the things that a laid back person would do and I would choose to respond to situations in a laid back way.

Now I am one hundred per cent responsible for the results that I am getting and for those that I am not and if I am feeling a certain way then I acknowledge that I am choosing to feel that way. Who are you really? What ways of being would you like to experience?

Feeling purposeful and being a contribution will influence your feeling of happiness. Nothing has meaning but the meaning that we give it. What meaning have you given to your life? Creating a purpose for yourself and your life gives your life meaning, what are you here to experience or what difference are you here to make?

Many people spend their whole lives trying to find themselves; some even travel far and wide, connecting with what is inside is fundamental. Ask yourself, what do I value most in life and check in as to whether or not you are living congruently with those values.

Balance is a contributing factor in a person’s pursuit of happiness.
Create a schedule that reflects your priorities and make time for the areas of your life that are most important to you. Choose to allow some time each week, just for you, to honor yourself and get connected with who you really are and what you really want for your life.

The attitude of gratitude is being grateful for what you have and creating a space for those things you would like to experience that you haven’t yet. Focus on abundance and start keeping a gratitude journal. Remember to experience growth, variety and contribute to others, exhibiting small acts of generosity and kindness go a long way to giving you that warm fuzzy feeling inside. You are the creator of your own world, so smile and get happy!

Rachel Anastasi
Empowerment coach, speaker, mentor
www.freetobemecoaching.com.au

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