Wow! Wow! Wow! Its been one ridiculously awesome ride since I’ve embarked on this journey with The Coaching Institute (TCI) in August 2014 for my Foundations of Coaching Success (FOCS) weekend. The journey continues and it keeps getting better and better every day. I am consistently and constantly learning, growing, exceeding expectations (even my own) challenged and supported by so many wonderful people in the TCI community. All of which gave me the courage and the passion to start up my own business providing a service that inspire, empower and educate people all over the world, especially girls and women, to create work and life passion, create and develop new benchmarks for living life to the fullest with integrity, creativity, respect and love. My first 9 months was tough, there were lots of effort, frustration, overwhelm, mistakes and tears from me and there were tons of support and encouragement readily available from the whole TCI community and fellow students, coaches, and mentors…and because of this, I was able to achieve great success personally and professionally.
5 years before I started my journey with TCI my life was an epic failure all round, the real estate business that my ex-husband and I had successfully built together over 8 years came crashing down, resulting in me becoming bankrupt, divorced and had to take my daughter who was 3 years old at the time, and move back to live with my parents or be homeless. At the time, I was totally stressed out, completely broke and had no idea what my next step would be, nothing was working for me regardless of my effort and I don’t know why. I only knew that whatever and wherever I was going, it was better than where I was. For the first time, I began to listen to myself (inner voice that has always been looking after my best interest) and not overwriting it as I used to do because I want to be loved, approved of, and belong with my husband, my mum, the community that I was with at the time - so I would try to be and do what I thought would make them happy and not be angry, critical of me, blaming or rejecting me. What I’ve learned was that even after I did all that to make them happy and to love me, they were still not happy and were even more critical about almost everything I did. So I finally realised and recognised that I’m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t…I might as well do it for me, at least at the end of the day, I will be happy with the outcome even if that was a failure. At FOCS intake, one of the many things that I’ve learned was so profound that “THERE WAS NOT FAILURE ONLY FEEDBACK.” Holy cow…this totally rocked my whole world and shifted my view and understanding about my life, life in general….What? I have never failed? I am not a failure? I have a purpose and I matter and my life matters? It is all feedback? Somewhere deep inside this message resonated with me and there was a huge relief inside of me.
From there I was on the search to find out another way of living my life, I did not know what that was, knew that once I got there, I will know it. The blessings of having disastrous failures in business and in my marriage was that it gave me a clear picture of what I don’t want and where I want to be was in the opposite direction to where my life was, from there I found The Coaching Institute.
The first time I stepped into TCI Melbourne office, I felt so much energy and creativity, it was just amazing. Everyone I met greeted me with hugs and smiles, and they don’t even know me. My mind was opened and challenged in a good way, and I was excited, inspired and a sponge. The information that Joe Pane delivered was so profound, and valuable. I felt that answers were popping up all over the place for me where before that there was just confusion, self-doubt and second guessing myself at every step, praying and hoping that what I was doing will work out. Some of the key principles about how we think (resourcefully or unresourcefully) determine the life we are having, 3 universal fears and 6 core human needs, male and female energy, map is not the territory, boundary conditions, cause and effect…gave me some solid understanding about my life experiences. With this new knowledge about myself, I can make different choices and conscious decisions, know my own intent and purpose for the choices that I have made, which is to create and build a successful life for myself and my daughter Jade, and also a business that allows me to grow and contribute in a massive way helping the humanity family to shift to respect, appreciate and nurture the wonder and beauty of this cosmos, universe that we all call home.
Personally I want to express my deepest gratitude and appreciate to 2 incredibly wonderful people who walk their talk - Sharon Pearson and Joe Pane for your vision, passion, commitment to excellence and generosity to create and build TCI for what it is today, and for providing exceptional quality training all the time. As a result of that so many people like myself have benefited in so many ways. A life changing gift. Priceless! Thank you Sharon and Joe. I would also want to extend my appreciation and gratitude to Matt Lavars, Lauren Kehoe, Diego and the WOW team. My journey has been one totally amazing ride, and I look forward to continuous success now and beyond because you were there with me and for me.
All my love and gratitude.