My intake was in March of 2014 and I was completely blown away with what seemed like some major revelations on what it means to not only give to others, it was also about giving to yourself. I went in there not really knowing whether I should even be there and left there with an insight into where I was really going.
A far cry from driving a truck interstate back from Brisbane heading to Melbourne somewhere near Bathurst, chewing on a lolly that was becoming quite tasteless in the last hour. My thoughts were my own as I wound the window down and spat that lolly out the window. Twenty minutes later my tongue was searching my mouth for the false teeth that were obviously quite missing!
A few months later, after falling from my truck and shattering my left arm, my daughter came to me and said “Dad, I’ve got the perfect job for you, a life coach”. I promptly replied “what the bloody hells a life coach”? A conversation with her in earlier years in regards to what University she should attend came to mind and researching the best place to learn what I needed for the best outcome placed The Coaching Institute as the clear winner.
I left my intake with pure excitement with the knowledge I had gained and the power of not only knowing I could do this life coaching thing, I was actually good at it. My biggest anchor at this point was actually facing clients. I mean my teeth made me look like I belonged on the street with no profession or education to show. How on earth could I show professionalism when I looked like this? Driving my family and friends insane with pro-bono offers saw some work coming my way with no paid clients in sight. Overwhelm had begun.
Child protection turned up with four of our grandchildren which they and the police took from our daughter (a whole other story) gave me plenty more excuses to procrastinate. This did take hold and a whole range of emotions flowed. I had to take a good hard look at what I was doing and make some big changes within myself if I wanted my life to start moving forward. A niche of relationships and parenting was slapping me in the face showing a goldmine of opportunity with my grandkids being a gift as well as a wealth of information to me. I also decided to start on the journey to have my teeth fixed.
My first paying client came from an unusual source which still has me a little baffled. It was a referral from someone at the local hospital who told my client that I could definitely help them. I didn’t know the referrer at all and accepted this trying not to look a gift horse in the mouth. I was extremely nervous with this client as my teeth had not even started to be fixed. I had two sessions with him and we made some great shifts together and word of mouth saw a second client in the pipe line.
My teeth were finally done and my confidence went through the roof. Clients started flowing and I was at six regular clients per week. Funny thing though, no-one noticed my teeth!! I found this extremely confusing and needed feedback. I started asking people what they thought of my new teeth. The various answers I got were that they looked good with the most common answer being that they hadn’t noticed a problem with them in the first place.
What a life changing moment when I realised my biggest hurdle to being a professional life coach was actually me. It wasn’t my perceived appearance nor an inability to show people what I could do, It was me!! Shifting with my clients meant I was now bouncing off the walls with a lot of positive energy and as a genuine thank you for the journey I wrote a small public piece which I posted on my blog, web site and Facebook words with an intent of saying just that. The unintentional return was extra clients with one even travelling up from Melbourne.
With just over twenty clients on my books and an average twelve per week I see nothing but a bright future for my business. And doing this “work” is so exciting I can’t bring myself to seeing it as actual “work”. And the more I see it this way the more it seems to grow. My business will consist of one day in Melbourne and three days here with a workshop once a week. ( Ten steps to the perfect relationship starting in three weeks ) and I have had someone ask me to speak on the drug situation in our area (part of the other story) which they are talking to their group and getting back to me soon.
I used to see my life as extremely hectic and myself as living in a world of deep overwhelm. Now I can only see excitement and potential. Thankyou TCI.