I started with TCI in July 2011. I was in the final year of a Master's degree which I was finding interesting on one level and rather dull and boring on another. Classes were exhausting and dry, delivered by endless power points and written notes. The contrast with the introduction weekend at TCI was a stunning and startling different type of training and none like I had ever experienced before. It felt more like a party than a training and at the same time I was beginning to understand a little of who I am and where I wanted to go. I was lucky enough to be chosen by Joe for the collapse anchor demonstration. The ripples of that experience are still going two years later. I made friends that I still meet on a regular basis. We still support each other, swap and share experiences and mentor each other. TCI became my second family. Finally a place where I was always welcome with no judgement.
I was working and still am working as a nurse educator. It became increasingly frustrating to have to deliver content in the old style that all nursing institutions use as I learnt more about ways to deliver the information in a way that offered so much more. After I attended HTRSW I utilised what I could from that into my lectures, which offered more value to my students. I also became increasingly frustrated at the content that I had to deliver knowing that there was so much more I could add to increase the value to the students, and create ripples that would benefit their patients. I am tired of the job and in May this year handed in my notice and changed from permanent part-time to casual. The feelings of relief were instant. It gives me more time to continue to develop my business ‘Beautifully Balanced’ and to complete my diploma assignments. The next step will be to leave nursing education and only work in my businesses.
‘Beautifully Balanced’ has two arms: weight loss and aged care. The weight loss arm is being developed and will become the main aspect of the business. I am currently undertaking talks to weight loss groups, have written my first e-book (currently going through the final edit), have set up a website, FB page, and a blog. I write for the blog 3 times a week and the blog automatically goes onto my website page. I have no IT know how but was lucky enough to find someone that did and she is still educating me around this field. In aged care I coach staff members and run workshops on wellness and communication.
One of my biggest challenges was cold calling. I would do a few, get knocked back and tell myself that this meant that I was no good at it. I would leave it for a while and then give it another go, only to get the same result. I think it was Sharon who told us that the definition of stupidity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. When I made the decision to leave work as a permanent member of staff, I knew that I would have to give cold calling a bigger go. It was a case of the pain being so bad that anything was worth a try. So I sat down with a list of all the aged care facilities within a 10km radius and started cold calling. Initially I was getting poor feedback so I continued to take on this feedback without personal attachment and slowly improved my cold calling strategy. I got better at speaking to the appropriate person and asking the questions to lead to a trial of my Tai Chi classes. I called over 55 aged care facilities and retirement villages and got 3 definite gigs. I believed that this was just the beginning, and that it would grow from here. I wasn't sure how it would, I just believed that it would. And it has. From one of those gigs I was offered an opportunity to talk at a lifestyle coordinators meeting to present the benefits of Tai Chi, and from that I got 2 more gigs. The facilities that I visit are now also interested in having some workshops. In another class I run, one of the clients gave me the contact details for her facility to continue Tai Chi classes there. From that meeting I have another class booked and they are also interested in the workshops. One of the gyms I contacted passed my details onto another gym and I start there this week, another weekly class. That gym passed my details to a local council looking to run Tai Chi classes over summer and I have been offered that program for 8 weeks starting this October. All this from 3 people saying 'YES'. As for cold calling, I could call anyone! I love giving talks and running workshops. This is my big goal, to have my business run many workshops and to be invited to give talks to inspire and empower women all over Australia and eventually the UK (which is where I am from). I will also be writing more books and this will be my passive income.
I attribute my success to all the training at TCI through the physical trainings and the webinars, in addition to all the coaching sessions that I have had to work through my issues. Following the triads I paid for some coaching sessions with a TCI master practitioner and have continued to get coached over the last two years. Sometimes there were little changes and occasionally there were flashes of blinding light and insight that caused huge changes. Being part of a loving and supportive community makes a big difference. Having people who love you enough to call you on your shit also allows you to drop your story and start living. At the NLP training Sharon talked about people who have a story so big that they would need several removal trucks. They hang onto this story because they believe that it keeps them safe. I was one of those people. I realised at NLP that I was scared that without my story I would be empty, have nothing left, because I had been my story for over 50 years. But when I let it go, there was all this room to be who I had always been, hidden inside, patiently waiting for me. It has taken time to grow into being me and is an ongoing process. Last week I had another coaching session, with another amazing TCI student, and he helped me find and develop even more of me. I am loving this new 'being'. To help me continue to grow and give even more value I have signed up to crew three times between now and Christmas. I will be modelling the best!
For the longest time I struggled with other people's success because I compared it to my lack of success. But now I am able to celebrate their success and enjoy it for all the wonder that it is. Everyone I know at TCI has taken a different journey, and at their own pace. I have taken one of the slowest journeys possible and this was due to my lack of belief about my own abilities. However along the way I have learnt so much and use these experiences to provide even more value to my clients.
I wish everyone who reads this a wonderful journey of discovery, insights and enlightenment, as you become the amazing you that you have always been but may not have remembered that you are. Take your time, do it your way and utilise all the support and expertise from TCI, the TCI community and all the role models you collect along the way.