This is known as "strategy elicitation" in NLP.
In case of feeling like failure, you may say something like, “Every time I feel that particular feeling of not getting things done, I feel like I’ve failed.”
Ask: “So how do you fail? What is it about that particular feeling?”
Then verbally answer that question – notice the modalities (visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, Auditory Digital) that you use when you talk about it.
What’s the purpose of this? Awareness is 95% of the journey.
When you understand how you “do failure”, you know how to change that strategy (the sequence of internal and external experience using modalities) and scratch it for something new.
When you change your strategy this way, you can’t keep running it because it is now disrupted. You will be running a new one that is more empowering.