So, these are the questions Remi asks herself constantly—yours might be totally different, of course—as part of her rituals.
"What am I grateful for?
"What can I appreciate about this moment?
"What do I love about this? And I don't mean what's going on in the world. I mean the moment I'm experiencing right now. A connection with someone."
Don't think that you have to summon up grandiose visions and dreams. "It can be be the smallest thing, like walking my dog," says Remi.
"The ritual around where can I show compassion right now, or feel compassion. How can I tap into emotional intimacy with someone?"
She doesn't need to be physically close with the person—they don't even need to be in the same country for her to create that connection: "My rituals are all around the discipline of my mind."
One important thing to remember? As Remi wrote in her 2019 book Ultimate You, "love for others starts with self love. We can't give what we don't see in ourselves."