Where were you when you joined TCI?
I was highly skilled, had done university, post grad study, a company director course—but what was missing in those learnings was how to be human and how to feel. I had to deal with high level, nasty malicious matters and through TCI I realised I’d lost a part of me and had to reconnect with parts of me that had been dead for a long time, or some parts I never even really knew how to tap into.
I was kidnapped from the USA by mum as a kid and that led to a lot of stuff for me, so understanding tribal cycles and enmeshment has been a huge part of me letting go of things that have been impacting on my life until now. At 54, I am looking at the next two years as really being able to live the life I want to live on my terms and being able to help others as well. A great journey.
How has that changed you?
Probably the biggest thing has been the shift in mindset, shifting from below the line on a number of things. I would always think I was above the line on everything, I’ve been an expert at hiding and deflecting, One of the things I had to adjust to after leaving the paid CEO role was if something needs to be done there’s nobody to delegate it to. It’s about understanding the worth of the support of a community.
Where are you at on your coaching journey?
Again, to give you a demonstration of the arrogance when I checked into TCI at Pro Coach level I was speaking to one of the Wow team. I said, “This is a three year course, is there a way I can do it in 12 months?” She said, “You can try.” She should have said, “You are certifiably bat shit crazy.” It’s a marathon, not a sprint. My journey with TCI has been a very personal inward journey. I wasn’t quite prepared for the multiplistic learning and at times it’s created overwhelm.
What’s this done for your lifestyle?
One of the things it’s given me is being able to support my wife to make her business grow. I used to walk out the door saying, ‘Whatever you do today, have fun with that—what time is dinner?’ Now I do deliveries for her if she needs it, help with workshops on the weekend. It’s been fantastic to actually connect with her on a different level. It’s given me the ability to do what I want to do when I want to do it. The mindset shift from being in the grind and a cog in the machine ... now my work and life are integrated. I no longer have a weekend but I’ll do things pretty much every day, a mixture of social media, coaching, networking, meetings, some form of marketing. Plenty of variety.
How is your business going?
I have about 12-15 clients. My goal is to make boards more effective and make businesses more sustainable so they don’t collapse, and help individuals. To take the dysfunction out of leadership.