Something similar happened to me. Another friend invited me to dinner a renowned Chinese restaurant in Melbourne, in the city. We were looking forward to it, food was supposed to be great.
When we got to the restaurant, it was closed.
My friend said, “The night is ruined.” I said, “There’s restaurants everywhere. How about we go for a walk and find another one? I’m here for the company, it doesn’t matter where we eat. ” So we did, and we had a great night.
This realignment of mindset is simple but also quite profound. Think about the times you’ve had an emotional upheaval, then ask what was the meaning you gave to the event.
Then ask how you felt. And know that if you didn’t like the emotion you felt, you could have chosen a different meaning to place on the event.
Ultimately what this framework to create emotional freedom gives us is the ability to take responsibility for our emotional experience.
This lets us choose the way we show up.
Of course, you’re not going to get it right all the time. I don’t. Not even close—and every now and then I drop back into total humanness and whinge and complain and have a crappy day.
Still, nine times out of ten I want to bring this into conscious thought and really choose the meaning I’m placing on events and decide, ‘Is this the experience I’m meant to be having?’
If not, I’m going to change the meaning. I’m going to change my experience.
Start using it right away. It’s a very powerful insight. And if you’ve loved this, you’ll love what’s coming up at TCI’s ‘How to Be a Recognised Coach’ summit on October 10 and 11. Click here to save your spot—see you there.