Relationships should be, ‘I’m going to the shops, can you think of anything you need?’ not doing the whole list.
If you want the big rewards, you have to put it out there. If we don’t have the risk, we don’t have the vulnerability. If we don’t have vulnerability, we don’t have intimacy and it’s not worth anything.
Be caring witnesses to your partner’s dark emotions. If you love them, you love all of them.
Care about their needs as if they are your own.
Hold your despair off in their moments of joy and hold your celebration off in their moments of devastation—you will get your time.
Don’t wait to be asked and do what needs to be done, not for praise or to prove you’re good but because this is how you honour someone.
You are not ‘helping’ when you do the dishes or the filing, you are taking care of business.
Your partner comes first and everything else is secondary.
Wishing you love and happiness!