The biggest benefit I have got from The Coaching Institute at this stage is the personal growth journey... I had no idea how allowing myself to feel would change my life. I can now see things that I had only heard about, like shame. And then I could see how I was passing this onto my kids without even knowing it.
I started my journey at The Coaching Institute two years ago, and had no idea of the new world that I was about to discover.
I was a typical male living in rural New South Wales working on the family farm, things were good.
However I noticed other farming families where the brothers no longer talked to one another, wives were unhappy and said that they may as well be single Mum's because their husband was really married to the farm, and still I didn't think this was our family.
Eventually I got the life lesson to realise we were no different to others, and that's when I went looking for answers and found The Coaching Institute.
"The biggest benefit I have got from The Coaching Institute at this stage is the personal growth journey... I had no idea how allowing myself to feel would change my life. I can now see things that I had only heard about, like shame. And then I could see how I was passing this onto my kids without even knowing it..."
The biggest benefit I have got from The Coaching Institute at this stage is the personal growth journey.
Recently I was coached by Tom from the Wow team at The Coaching Institute, and I cried for an hour. It was the weirdest thing to do for a bloke who learned a long time ago to shut that down. Yet I am so glad I trusted Tom and went with it.
I had no idea how allowing myself to feel would change my life. I can now see things that I had only heard about, like shame. And then I could see how I was passing this onto my kids without even knowing it.
I could now see how I was trying to help or "fix" my wife and children, just like my parents and their parents before, and so on.
But the message my family were hearing was that they were broken, not good enough for me, I was shaming them and holding them back with no idea I was doing it.
This lead to me taking my wife out for lunch with the intention of being kind and caring towards her. I sat there and listened to my wife for a very long time, resisting the urge to help with the problems she was sharing. It was so hard and felt wrong to sit there and just say things like "that sounds really hard for you" with out offering any help.
But the smile on my wife's face (as opposed to the argument we would normally have) is one I will never forget.
As I was writing this, where were a few times I just sat and cried, as opposed to just getting on with it.
I'm really grateful for all of your guidance. It still feels weird, but well worth it!
ABOUT ALLEN
Allen started his journey at The Coaching Institute two years ago, and had no idea of the new world that he was going to discover. Along his beautiful coaching journey, he's reconnected with who he truly is, allowed himself to feel for the first time, and changed the relationship with his family for the better...
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