STEP TWO: DEVELOP AUTONOMY
Autonomy is simply that I am responsible for myself, and not you. You are responsible for you.
Instead of autonomy, a lot of people have this thing called enmeshment. It’s where they feel they’re responsible for other people so they get overly anxious and depressed when others don’t do what they want them to.
We need to let go of that idea. It's not about being selfish, it's about being responsible and it leads to great side effects like clarity and goal setting.
Of course, if you have kids or elderly parents relying on you, you still take care of them. But you also make room for you. Self education is a great way to start—learn a new skill and see how when your competency, develops your self respect does too.
STEP THREE: RELATIONSHIPS
What you need to know is that you matter to yourself and someone else. And the only way we can do this is to focus on developing quality relationships.
While our healthy dose of autonomy is vital, we need to bring others with us or we’re going to have a very lonely journey.
There’s been studies done that show the number one thing that drives meaning and purpose and satisfaction in our lives is the quality of our relationships.
I’ve talked a lot before about this, and it goes back to my Facebook thoughts. The way to experience great relationships is to focus on intimacy, speaking our minds, being honest.
Love, care and respect are what makes up an amazing relationship.
Want to hear more? I'll be talking about coaching, relationships, the whole shebang at the August 8 and 9 two day life coaching summit. Click here to find out more—see you there.