How have you transformed personally?
The biggest change for me would be accessing playfulness and humour. I joined TCI very rigid, very formal, aiming to be professional which showed up as pole stuck up my ass and now I am playful, fun. I have found unusual ways to be creative and I am being me.
Where are you at on your coaching journey?
My business is called Wisteria Enterprises. I currently have two group mentoring programs that I am building concurrently. In one of those I have five students, in the other I have two. I’ve signed three new clients in the last three weeks. I choose to work very part time so I can navigate family and education and what I want. I work at most ten to 15 hours a week. I'm not making huge amounts of money but I am making what I want. This is about a purpose beyond being a wife and mum and me. I live a life that I love.
Your biggest turning point?
I think when I stopped trying to conform with who I thought I had to be. I am living my life. My conversations with my clients are not scripted. I tell them, 'If you are looking for a coach who has her shit together, try someone else. If you are looking a coach who will answer your emails really fast and maintain the back end of things, try someone else. If you are looking for a coach who will love you and champion you and help reclaim you, let’s work together.' I am being me and I am flawed and my clients love it.
Your most successful marketing strategy?
Be raw [on social media.] I put it out there that I get where you were, I have been there and I am still not perfect and am not aiming for that but I am here for you, People just want to know you’re here for them and have authentic conversations.
Advice for other fabulous TCI coaches?
Know your goals and the process to bring them to life. Follow that because it’s easy to get sidetracked, easy to find shiny new things. Know what you’re aiming for. I had three criteria in my first twelve months when I studied:
- What do I want to play with for me? That meant I maintained my motivation.
- What do I need to change in my own life to become the best version of me and live the life of my dreams?
- What are the challenges that my clients are coming with that I don’t know how to solve?
That was how I shaped all of my study. The third one doesn’t tend to crop up any more. So it’s what looks like fun, what do I want to improve in my life, how do I add more value to clients.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Still sitting in my office, looking out over the view. You know in apocalypse films where there’s one valley somewhere that is saved from the nuclear explosion? That’s where I live. I see myself embodying coaching even more in my personal life. My kids are growing up and in five years my youngest will be driving, which is scary. My husband and I are delightfully happy, my business is ticking over, it’s not grown to anything massive but I’ve made a difference, I’ve published two or three books, I have a movement going around embracing being who we want to be. I am being me.