As well as being a successful coach, Brisbane’s Kylie Hancox has a flourishing side hustle as a celebrant at namings, weddings and funerals. Kylie calls it her “heart space work” which taps into her deep personal experience in both love and grief.
On the love side of the ledger: a 25-year marriage to Telstra technician Owen Hancox. The pair met on a NSW beach when Kylie was six and went on their first date just before she turned sixteen.
On the grief side: seven miscarriages, including three in three years. The last saw Kylie “throw myself into work” to whitewash the pain before having a breakdown and being made redundant from a full-tilt corporate role.
“I wanted to go sit on a beach and take some time out for a few months, decompress, then go back to Corporate Land,” Kylie recalls. “The mask was firmly in place. Who I was was pretty lost, very one dimensional.
“Then TCI popped up on Facebook and I thought, ‘That sounds interesting’ … and my entire world changed.”
Signing up for a three-day event with head trainer Matt Lavars was “easy as,” says Kylie. “Turning up was fascinating. Then I had an anxiety attack driving in on the Sunday. I could feel how much it mattered. I knew I was at a pivotal point.”
She remembers what she felt and thought the moment she signed up: “I went, ‘this is my future’. If I were to give it one word, I would call it becoming. I was becoming the person I was meant to be.
“It was terrifying and also the most wonderful thing.”
Three years on and in a COVID world, Kylie it at two-thirds capacity in her business Hancox Coaching and Consulting Group, and has big five-year dreams.
“I am so happy,” she says. “The passion and purpose has driven me forward every time I’ve fallen to my knees. It’s awesome.”