The next level up is Realisation, and that simply means that we are at the developmental stage of being aware of what has been happening to us.
Realisation is, ‘I am aware of the journey I just went on.’ How does this apply to adults and coaching? These are psychological stages but the interesting thing is they are not dependent on physical age.
We can be at the psychological stages at any age and regress because of what is happening outside of us.
Talking about this takes me back to before I became a coach. I had a lot of rebellion energy, which is ‘I am done with the problem, I want to rebel against it and propel myself to more success’.
One of the things I was rebelling against involved family and friends. I noticed people were okay but nobody was really happy. Nobody woke up and said, ‘I can’t wait to go to work.’ That was not a conversation, yet I wanted to get out of the nine to five grind.
So I rebelled against it.
I used my pushing away energy to propel me to find something else. While I didn’t even know what coaching was, I went to the Mind, Body, Spirit Festival on my own. It was the first step forward to anything like this, and I went to a workshop called Keeping Your Love Tank Full.
I learned about the importance of loving yourself. I thought, ‘holy crap, this is a great insight’. Until then I hadn’t thought about it. So when we move away from what we don’t want it can propel us to what we do want.
For me, that was I wanted to be fulfilled. I wanted to have a feeling of, ‘I like what I do’, and obviously now I do.
I found that through coaching.