Our mindset is the first one. A lot of people live an unconscious life where their mind is chaotic and full of random thoughts.
The opposite is when we start to employ basic things like mindfulness. To focus on our breath, to learn to calm our mind then start to pay attention to the types of thoughts we have.
The next thing is to focus on creating a friendly and loving relationship with our emotions.
It’s important to know there are no negative or positive emotions.
Like body parts, all emotions are neutral. All serve a purpose.
A lot of people have a negative relationship with their emotions because they don’t like feeling sad or angry. We suppress our feelings and this creates major problems for our health and psychology and ability to get closer to other people.
Then there’s our relationship with ourselves—and a really great question is, what is that relationship?
Do you look after yourself or are you looking after everyone else because you were taught to be selfless? Most people get really good at it, but what happens is eventually their body collapses and they burn out.
I trust this will give you some awareness of how you can start to set some internal goals for yourself. When you start to prioritise yourself, everything else in your life starts to improve.