I imagine you’ll ask someone else who has a track record of taking care of the little things because that means they are worthy of the big things.
You won't trust them to keep promises they make. Question is, do you keep the promises you make to yourself?
I speak to a lot of people who say they would do anything for others but they let themselves off the hook.
The problem is you have a relationship with you. You are listening to yourself all the time. You are paying attention to everything you do. And when we say we are going to do something and don’t follow through, we’re breaking trust with ourselves.
We might not ever let down a colleague or loved one, yet we let ourselves down without a second thought.
A lot of us don’t have this awareness that this is an important thing to avoid. When I first heard this it was like a massive awakening.
I’d been saying yes to all these other people and letting myself down.
What I didn’t know was this was decreasing my own self-trust.
Imagine you have a trust bank, like an actual bank. It lives inside you and you can make investments and increase the amount of trust you have in the bank. The way you make an investment is you follow through on what you say you’ll do.
The way you make withdrawals—and we want to avoid that—is to let yourself down by breaking promises you make to yourself. Yes, even little ones like ‘I’ll sort out my banking today’.
The way to apply this is to practise with little things. Wake up at seven if you tell yourself you will. Meditate if you tell yourself you will.
The next step? Stop making commitments you can’t follow through with.
It’s better to say no to something right off the bat than say yes and not follow through. When you do that, you’re not prioritising yourself, you’re making withdrawals from your self-trust bank and you’re lowering your self-esteem.
Start prioritising yourself!
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