Does this sound familiar? You wake up, have your first coffee. You might have a run or do a workout, take care of something important, grab your phone and scroll through emails.
Then it’s into the traffic or the public transport system to get to work. Which is crazy busy, then you get home and take care of the next thing and the next thing and the next thing.
Then you go to bed and wake up and do it all again.
So many of us live this life where we are always rushing toward the next thing and instead of becoming aware of what’s going on around us we can tend to focus too much, or let our mind and thoughts, get trapped in our own heads.
When we are doing this incessant worrying and thinking and planning—and by the way, don’t get me wrong, there is a time for all that—but when we are stuck in this mode we tend to miss the moments of connection with each other, with ourselves, with the environment, with what is going on around us.
When that happens we tend to miss a lot of life, and so connection starts with the foundation of presence. Of being present.
Here's a daily way to feel more connected with important people in your life.
Take a deep breath and start to become aware of where you are. Start to become aware of the people around you. Hold an eye gaze for a moment.
An eye gaze is such a wonderful tool for deep presence. I’ve met people and I’ll bring them into workshops and we’ll do an eye gazing exercise and they’ll break down because they can’t remember the last time they held eye contact with another human and breathed it in and just allowed themselves to connect.
For most people it brings up a little bit of sadness or joy, sadness because of that loss of connection and joy because of just how good it feels to be able to connect with each other.