Which brings me to what I said that I knew would cause challenges for some of the community. I’m saying it again here because I believe it’s true, and I know it’s important.
If you are in a relationship and there are children, your commitment to each other comes ahead of your commitment to your children.
As I said in the Emotional Intimacy Breakthrough class, I know for some of you I have just spoken an unthinkable sentence but it’s true.
Your kids will feel more secure if they can see you have a secure attachment with an intimate partner. If they can see it’s torn apart easily by distractions, they won’t feel as secure.
Your first secure attachment is to your intimate partner. If you can nurture your relationship and are demonstrating beautiful secure attachment.
And your kids are going to model that.
Other things that keep your relationship plugged into that power socket? Taking care of the basics. Being kind and graceful and speak your truth. And knowing there is a risk in love, but also understanding if you don't have risk you don't have vulnerability.
And if we don't have vulnerability, we don't have emotional intimacy. And your relationship is worth nothing.