The biggest mistake I made, and I see other people make is they believe their personality or their thinking is fixed.
It is simply not true.
As US positive thinking author Dr Norman Vincent Peale put it, "If you want things to be different, perhaps the answers is to become different yourself".
Years ago I imagined myself to have money, be fit healthy, have the body I wanted, be happy and get paid for doing what I love. But it was all intellectual—I wasn't that person.
I had the character, the skillset, the routines, the standards of someone else. My thinking, my rules and habits were all of the person I was, not the person I wanted to become. The story I was telling myself was not aligned with the future I desired.
So that realisation that for me to achieve my dreams and create the life I want, I had to change, the ultimate responsibility.
I had entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn's quote burning in my brain. "For things to change, you have to change, for things to get better you have to get better, for things to improve you have to improve, and when you grow everything in your life grows with you."
I tried to reason with it, fight with it, find another way but it wasn't happening for me. No matter how hard I pushed, things didn't change.
I even tried justifying my situation with my story. I said I would have a certain amount of success. Just not as much as the top entrepreneurs or speakers because I am not the type of person that gets up at 5 am and trains, meditates and has a powerful morning routine. All because I told myself I wasn't a morning person.
This story and many other stories I took as reality because I told them to myself over and over.
As much as I didn't want to believe it was me that needed to change, I had to make a decision. Get after the life I want or stay stuck with my story and live with regret in the future.