When you start prioritising you and you put yourself first on your to do list, you are filling up your own cup. If you don't do that, your cup will become empty.
If your cup is running low, you don’t have energy to give to other people. If you fill it up, you are fulfilled, can contribute, can serve and even more than that, can be a great demonstration.
One of the things I love is talking to clients who are mums, who struggle big-time with the idea of putting yourself first.
In the first 90 days, the first year, you could even say the first 18 years of your child’s life, it’s so important for mums to be there to look after their child, for the sake of both.
Still, I find a lot of mums flip from, ‘I’m looking after me’ to ‘Now I’m looking completely after my kids and I don’t have time for myself.’
Unfortunately, that becomes the demonstration for the child, and the child sees, Okay, this is what it’s like to be a mum, to be a woman.
I have to look after everyone else and I’m not really allowed to prioritise myself.
So what happens out of a good intention is the cycle continues from generation to generation.
I love it when I get to work with a woman who says, ‘I want to be one of those mums who takes care of myself, and I want to have my own goals and my dreams and I want to be a demonstration to my kids for what they can do.’
When we look after our own dreams, challenges will appear and sometimes I think it’s the universe’s way of testing us … are you sure you want this?
Just know that when we live our dream we not only achieve what you want but are a demonstration for other people.
As US author Marianne Williamson says, ‘As a result of you shining your own light you unconsciously give other people permission to shine their own.’
I want to encourage you to prioritise your goals, prioritise your needs and wants. Start with one thing today—just change one small thing.
You get to take control of the remote. Don’t give yourself the burned small piece of steak. Go for a walk with a friend and let someone else supervise the kids’ homework.
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