This is a very important standard to have when you are a coach or therapist, and we bring that into how we relate to everyone inside our lives.
Carl Jung said over 100 years ago that, ‘We don’t see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.’ Another way of saying this is that the relationship I have with myself is going to impact the relationship I have with you.
Dr Wayne Dyer said if you change the way you look at things, the things that you look at are going to change. I wonder if you’ve ever had a great day and you’re walking around and everyone else seems upbeat and as if they’re having a great day too.
On the other hand, you might be having a really average day and everyone around you seems to be getting in your way and giving you a hard time.
The way that I think about you and the people around me, the view that I have on you is going to impact not just my relationship with you but my relationship with myself.
I remember when I first learned this I was on public transport in Melbourne, travelling and looking around and judging everyone, how the looked, how they seemed, while in my head thinking I myself was awesome.
Then I applied the learning, and thought if I’m judging them, I am judging myself. So, okay, I better stop judging others because I don’t want the judgement.