Mastering public speaking: What pros know that you should too

Want to be a great public speaker? Here's what to do to get you started on the road to stage or online domination.

Mastering public speaking is something The Coaching Institute's Matt Lavars worked hard at on his way up. And he can remember the exact moment that changed everything for him.

Two years into his coaching journey at TCI, which began in 2011, he approached founder Remi Pearson and said he wanted to be a trainer for her.

"I wanted her to go, 'Really? Awesome. Go you,'" says Matt.

"And she turned around, said 'Nice. Work hard. And bridge the gap between who you are onstage and offstage.'"

How did Matt take it? "I thought, 'That sounds hard. What does that mean?'"

Find out here—and find out how to do it:

So when Matt decided he wanted to tackle mastering public speaking, the end result was being onstage or online as someone who could command an audience, and give and inspire.

But that end result didn't reflect his real life, he says.

"In my real life, I still had a lot of low self esteem and had a lot of problems around suppressing emotions and really crappy relationships.

"One of the things Remi taught me was if you’re going to talk it onstage, you have to live it."

When Remi pointed it out to Matt, he got that being a master trainer wasn't just about the skill set but deciding to bridge the gap between who he was on and offstage.

At the the time, "I was like, 'Don't look in my house, it's a shambles, don't look in my car' but out of the house I would look nice.

"I didn’t keep the promises I made to myself, I let myself down, I didn’t pay my bills so I attracted people who didn't pay their bills."

Time to clean the closet. Matt knew he couldn't start to do what he wanted until he was living 'above the line' values.

"If I'm not doing it, I can't tell someone else to do it. That's being a hyprocrite, right? I'm not going to be that person. I'm not going to be that trainer.

"That's unauthentic. We have to embody everything we talk about."

A mistake some people fall into is too say 'I've got to sort my stuff out and when that's sorted, I'll be a speaker," says Matt.


"We start the journey now and we're sorting the stuff in the background. We don't have to tell everybody. We're just doing it, showing up."

Get started today. Mastering public speaking, becoming a speaker, is about a lot more than speaking.

You got this. Find your voice.

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