So, here’s the third part you need to reduce then release the negative self talk.
You have to develop a space of gratitude. There are only two major experiences we can have in life. One is love. The other is fear. And we can’t be in a space of love and fear at the same time.
So we want to create as much love space as we possibly can and one of the subsets of that is gratitude and acceptance. Then when our thoughts come up and they say you’re not good enough, you hit them gently with two words.
They say you can’t sign that client. Say ‘thank you’ and let it slide.
They say you can’t run five kms, will stuff up the public speaking gig, won’t be able to help your kids with their homework.
Just accept it. Then ‘thank you’. That’s it.
The power of thank you is huge.
Because when we don’t give energy to the negative self talk it goes away and dies out. We use gratitude and acceptance to starve that little crackling fire of oxygen before it can spread.
It’s a basic tool and technique and it takes a bit of practise, but once you get the hang of not arguing, just feeling gratitude and thanking, it goes away.
Once it does you’ll have room to replace the negative self talk with something more helpful, like “I can pull this off, I got this.”
You have got it. And if you want even more certainty, jump on and grab a spot for the free 'Unleash Your Coaching Potential' summit on August 15. See you there.