Step three: Gain insight
Everything is a learning opportunity if that's how you see it. The conflict we experience is very rarely outside of ourselves—nine times out of ten, the conflict we experience is inside our minds and are stories we tell ourselves.
Arguably the single best thing you can do if you want to practice conscious leadership is become self-aware. Get to know yourself as a person not just as a title, and monitor your feelings, motives and thoughts.
Get into the habit of asking yourself personal questions every day, and bring the same consciousness to conversations with colleagues to really build self-awareness.
When I'm in this situation I turn to a handful of statements. First, "This moment reminds me of ... "
Maybe it will remind you of a time this happened previously and give insights into patterns and reactions within yourself.
"I keep this issue going by ... " Ask yourself what it is you're doing that's enabling the issue to continue.
One of my favourites is, "The lifelong pattern I'm noting is ... "
See what you can learn about yourself. Remember taking ultimate responsibility and practising conscious leadership is really challenging and it's easier to point the finger.
Also remember that the people you most associate with—just five, according to Tony Robbins' mentor Jim Rohn—play a huge role in your success and character. Are they contributing to you being your best you?
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