Next step in knowing how to handle imposter syndrome? You'll love it.
2. You are not alone.
Common humanity is realising that we’re not the only ones who think or feel the way we do. Reminding myself that I was not the only one who experienced imposter syndrome allowed me to confront my fears and be vulnerable about my experience.
The only way to move past it is to do the very thing that causes you fear. For me, it's consistently telling people that I am a coach!
You'll be surprised how much relief you'll feel and also how much space you create for others to drop their masks too. As that High School Musical song goes, "we're all in this together."
3. Kill them with kindness.
Mindfulness is being aware of your mental or emotional state without judgement. At first, I fought hard against those thoughts. I tried burying them in busyness and studying my materials. The more I fought them, the more they gripped me.
But a recent coaching session with The Coaching Institute's master coach Joe Pane taught me a nifty trick: just say, 'thank you', the next time those thoughts pop up into your head. (TCI's Matt Lavars also stands by these two little words.)
This was a really easy way to immediately practice non-judgement towards my inner world. Because what I've come to realise is, for this moment in time, those thoughts are a part of me.
I don't need to fight them like the enemy or judge myself for them.
I can acknowledge them and kindly send them away.
No inner turmoil required.
So if you've been battling with imposter syndrome, take a moment to reframe and give self-compassion a go. Elevate the language with which you speak to yourself, remember that just like some pesky humans, killing them with kindness is the most effective action, and finally, you're not alone in thinking that you don't know enough.
As John Legend said, "everybody knows that nobody really knows." (Emphasis mine).