There are 11 major lies new life coaches tell themselves. Here they are, and here's how to overcome them.
As a new coach, you absorb so many new techniques, a new mindset, and a whole new approach to life.
As coaches, we get to practise what we preach. It’s immensely important to 'be the change' before you offer the gift of coaching to your clients.
The mind is a wonderful thing. It’s also a big liar when it comes to our 'true beliefs'.
It holds the capacity to convince you to think thoughts that aren’t necessarily true. Form negative opinions about things that matter. And worst of all, lie to you.
Has this ever happened to you?
You’re lying wide-awake at night, staring at the ceiling, wondering why things aren’t going the way you’d like them to? Perhaps it’s the dilemma of finding a consistent flow of new clients. Or setting up your business and IT systems.
Whatever it is, you’ll agree that the nagging mind doesn’t make it any better.
Almost everyone goes through these motions. Here's the biggest lies new life coaches tell themselves (and what to do about it):
- I can’t do it: Think about how a baby learns to walk. It falls, gets up and falls again. Each time, the baby laughs and doesn’t take falling so seriously. So your mind telling you, you can’t do it? That’s a big fat lie. Because if a baby can, you can too.
- I don’t have the time: Yeah, neither does the Australian prime minister. There is no going around this, which is very common among the lies new life coaches tell themselves. You make time for things that matter to you. So if you cannot find time for your new coaching business, sourcing leads, writing that blog post, perhaps it isn’t that important to you. If it is important, then 'not having the time' gets reduced to a mere excuse. Right?
- I don’t have the skills: Of course you do! And the fact that you’re reading this blog says volumes about your aspiration to develop more skills. As a coach, you have ALL the necessary tools in your arsenal. The question is how you use them.
- I will finish this later: But guess what? The 'later' never comes. And even if it does, why should later be more disciplined than now? You’re far less likely because you’re already giving in to procrastination. Later is going to be much harder so instead, why not do it now? Make that call now; write that email now; finish that knowledge paper—you guessed it —now!
- It’s too hard: Of course it is. But know what? All amazing things are worth it. That’s what makes them amazing in the first place. I agree, life is supposed to be easy and enjoyable. But to expect it to be like that all the time is lazy behaviour. As a coach, you know better, right?