There is a professional relationship I thought I could always count on. I don’t know why. There was no evidence that I could count on it. I had just assumed.
That was my first mistake.
My second mistake was building a goal around something I could not control and influence.
My third mistake (yes, they’re mounting up) was to assume the relationship would cope with some strain.
So I arrived near the middle of the year. What I’d counted on, was… wrong. The decisions I’d made until then were based on some very poor thinking on my part.
What’s a girl to do?
I could get down on myself. I could get down on them. I could complain. I could worry.
Instead (and I’m not saying this because this is what I always do – there are times I do respond poorly!), I saw the opportunity to represented.
In only three days the goals had been redefined and reset to take into account not just the changed relationship, but also to make the most of the opportunity it could represent, if only we saw through the disappointment.
I’ve done exactly that. It’s been a liberating, exhilarating and amazing time of self-realisation.
I had been compromising myself for this relationship. I had been hiding my true self to keep things on an ‘even keel’. I had suppressed my natural style for their way. None of that was ever going to last. (Yes, what was I thinking!)