Success Habit 6. To Matter (Outer World Need)
To know you matter is the fertilizer of the garden of your mind. It’s the source of encouragement; the boost you want to propel you onto new ways to embrace your Centered Self.
The success habit is formed if you continuously demonstrate self-care, compassion, and encouragement to yourself, you attract and are attractive to people who will take you seriously.
There is a part of you, and all of us, which craves and needs to be part of a broader collective. And you want to and need to feel connected and important to your group.
It’s not enough to have a certain number of people in your life. You must know that, in their eyes, you are significant, and that you matter. That you are important to them. In your Centered Self garden, this is the fertilizer that nourishes you.
I’m sure you’ve had the experience where you’ve turned up at a dinner party and felt it wouldn’t matter whether you were there or not. That the people there – and this could be your family – seem indifferent to you and your life.
And I trust you’ve had the experience where you’ve shown up at some other dinner party, and at least one person has shown an interest in and been delighted to hear about you and what you’ve been doing. You recognize that if you hadn’t shown up, you would be missed – that your Centered Self is significant in their eyes, in their minds, and in their hearts.
You can also understand that you matter when you contribute to causes larger than yourself, the members of which are unknown to you personally or your circle of family, friends, and acquaintances, or though through kind acts to others who don’t know you.
♥ Be with people who accept you for who you are
♥ Be kind to unkind people
♥ Contribute to something beyond your own life and that of your family