1. We seek what are other people’s resolutions, not ours.
We think it’s what we should be doing, rather than what we want to be doing.
It could be that your resolution that you set and give up on every year is completely misaligned with your core values, making it easy to quit before the finish line.
2. When you quit cold turkey, rather than doing it as a short-term goal.
Making resolutions involves changing major behaviour patterns, which requires re-wiring your neural pathways.
Trying to not do things the “default” way (like you’ve always done) and going cold turkey on certain behaviour patterns in fact strengthens the very behaviour.
3. Resolutions are about getting from here to there and therefore rooted in a limited thinking pattern.
In effect, a resolution will often have a tendency to make you feel you’re less than where you want to be. They re-enforce the gap which may or may not motivate you. It all depends on what drives you.
4. Resolutions are rigid and externally focused.
They ask you to make changes to externalised objects, or something that’s outside of us. It’s also a pretty rigid way of looking at things – you either do it or you fail. Until you work on what’s inside, changing the external reality is pretty darn hard.
Instead, embrace all of you whole-heartedly and set fluid goals that are not too rigid and are more in alignment with your values, choices, beliefs and purpose.