Not rocking the boat might have felt really safe, so the kid makes sure they’re always nice, they don’t ask for what they want, they don’t speak up too much or make too much noise.
So this commitment can stay unconscious which just means it’s underneath your conscious awareness and what’s really important to understand is it can drive your decision making.
How does this play out in business?
Say for example you have decided, okay I am going to run my own business, and you are also a parent. So you have to set some boundaries around when you can look after kids but also put some time into the business and study.
Without boundaries it’s going to be crazy, but unconsciously your body is saying, ‘Don’t set boundaries, that’s rocking the boat, don’t ask for what you want.’
What will happen is you consciously set these goals but unconsciously there’s a part of you that is pulling you back, making you play a small game because it’s safe and you’re protected.