Compare yourself today with the person you were yesterday instead
As a teenager, I remember feeling constantly engulfed by envy, belittling myself because I was never the smartest, the most outgoing, the prettiest, or the “best.” I discredited my achievements, and instead spent days wishing I had (what I assumed) other people’s perfect lives. It took me years to accept that the presence of another person’s success is not the absence of my own.
Like Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparisons are the thief of joy.” They are a human tendency that deprives us from living a happy life. We compare the worst of ourselves to the best we presume about others, and begin to resent our lives.
A better strategy? Compare yourself to your earlier self. What are the qualities you’ve recently developed? What can you do now better than before? These are the healthy comparisons you should be making to appreciate your evolution, and pursue further development.