In her research with fifth graders, Carol Dweck, a Stanford psychologist, suggested that parents praise their children’s efforts, perseverance and engagement to stick to a goal instead of complimenting them on their inherent smartness or intelligence.
Dweck found that doing so boosts a growth mindset in children as opposed to a “fixed mindset”. When operating from the latter, we tend to believe we’re good at some things (talents and abilities) while not so good at others.
As you’ll agree, this leads to a limitation-based thinking.
For example: Instead of saying “You are very good at this” you say, “You have worked really hard on this and got some great results”.
See the difference? Once you label yourself as naturally good at something, you don’t want to lose that positive image. This hampers taking up new challenges that seem out of scope of your natural abilities.
A growth or success mindset on the other hand promotes openness to learning. You weren’t just blessed with it – you worked your socks off at it.
It doesn’t necessarily mean making more money, although that could be a part of it.
There is nothing wrong with setting goals, but cultivating a success mindset works so much better in the long run.
A coach with a success mindset doesn’t fixate on perfection. To them, progress is more important.
Because here’s the thing: If you are stuck on perfecting things, you barely have anything to show for because, well, it isn’t perfect yet (and never will be).
It’s a vicious circle, and you’re smart to break it and focus on progress instead. That’s what a successful coach would do . Even slow progress is progress.